Early mornings

It's currently 5:30 am and I'm sitting in our dark living room holding a sleeping baby. He woke at 4:00 and drank his bottle and would not go back to sleep. At 4:30 I put him in bed thinking he'd fuss a few minutes and be out (and thinking I was done sleeping in the recliner most mornings). He did stop fussing after a few minutes but then it was several off and cry out, several off and cry out. I went in, patted and soothed, and left again...probably making things worse for myself. I decided to take a shower because between bursts of crying and the child who had crawled into bed with my husband and left me not the amount of space I like to have I knew I wouldn't get much sleep. So, I was showered and dressed before 5:00. I can honestly say it was my first year of teaching the last time that happened. I had planned on using this time to be productive and clean before everyone woke up and it was time to get ready for school, etc. Instead I'm enjoying the cuddles that come with holding a sleeping baby that's growing too quickly.

Struggle

H can be many things - funny, stubborn, defiant, sweet - and a lot of the time he's great at driving me crazy, but he has a sensitive side. It's his sensitive side that has me struggling a lot lately. This is the part of him that brings out the mama bear in me, the side that wants to shelter him and keep him little so I can protect him. 

Earlier this week he didn't want me to leave him at school; more specifically, he didn't want me to leave him alone. Those were his exact words, "I don't want you to leave me alone." Talk about heart break. I was just looking at him, struggling to find the right words, not sure how to handle the situation when one of his classmates bounced up behind him. I told him to look behind him. They were so excited to see each other and just like that he wasn't alone and it was okay for me to leave because he ran off with her through the front gate. 

This afternoon, when I was picking him up from school, I asked him who he played with at recess. It's a question he gets asked every day, and more days than I'd like to count he tells me, "no one." The thing is, he has friends. This boy can make anyone smile. He is silly and will do almost anything to get a laugh. But, he also has a one track mind sometimes. Today he said he didn't play with anyone but he explained he was looking for one of his friends (a third grader - my first grader has three third grade friends that I know of) and couldn't find her. I can certainly picture him in my minds eye wandering around the playground looking for one person in particular, ignoring everyone around him or turning them down when they ask to play. Then, when he's asked about it, he's sad because no one played with him. Husband and I have talked about this. If you've seen Meet the Robinsons, there's a flashback scene with the villain where he says everyone hated him (elementary school) and they show him walking down the hallway and everyone being kind to him and asking if he wanted to play, etc. This is what we imagine H looks like on days when he gives us this answer. But what do I do? How do I help him? Struggle, struggle, struggle. 

I want so badly to go to school with him, to see him succeed, to make sure he's doing his best and playing with friends and being happy. I want to be in control and I'm not. I know I'm going to have more mornings where he doesn't want me to leave him. I know there will be more days when he doesn't play with anyone at recess. I know that he's going to have failure and heart break and disappointment; and I want to shield and protect him from it all and I can't. I'm going to continue to struggle with how to help him. I'm going to continue to struggle for the right words. I'm going to continue to struggle but I hope he knows he is loved. I hope he knows that he has a mama who wants to do it all and doesn't because that wouldn't be the best for him. While struggling is uncomfortable, and sometimes my heart does break for him, I hope that through these struggles I can become a better mom to H.

Project Run and Play - Candy Inspired

I finally decided to join in and sew along with Project Run and Play. I had grand plans, and still do, but with a few sickies, 1 year shots, and H's school it is a busy week I only completed one of five shirts I planned on doing.

When I saw the theme was candy inspired, and I viewed all of the designers amazing outfits, I googled candy to see if I could get any ideas. Amidst all of the pictures, I saw some conversation hearts. I can't say their my favorite candy, but it did give me an idea...well, several. My first thought was to make shirts for my boys in the colors of conversation hearts (green, orange, and yellow - Husband probably wouldn't go for pink or purple) with conversation heart sayings painted in red on the front. I decided to use the Peek-a-boo pattern for the play date v-neck tee with short sleeves because the v-neck mimics the dip in the hearts. Of course, JoAnns didn't have the colors I wanted so we are now going with green, blue, and white (x2). Then, while perusing the designs for week one, I thought it would be fun to make a girly shirt (to give away of course) that mimicked the conversation heart box. I happened to have everything I needed to do that, so that was completed first.

For this shirt I used the Oliver + S Popover Sundress, a pink shirt, two red shirt sleeves, and some premade pink bias tape I had on hand. I also used the pink shirt to make a heart pocket and then painted the pocket to resemble the heart on the front of the box.

The inspiration

And now, the results:

The Sweetheart Shirt

pocket detail

Overall, I like it. I like the pocket but it seems to heavy for the shirt. I'm hoping it will loosen up after a wash or two. I'm also hoping the recipient of the shirt likes it. Probably my favorite aspect is how she'll be able to wear it regardless of season because it will still look cute over a short or long-sleeved shirt.